βIf life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor.β β Eleanor Roosevelt
I often have the ‘what if‘ conversation with my husband.
“What if we never met? Would I still get married to you?”
“What if I decided to pursue my studies someplace else? Would I meet you somewhere?”
And every time I thought he would complain and ask me to stop asking the same question, he’d calmly remind me to have faith in God’s plan and believe, that the path we are on is the best plan crafted by Him.
There are days where it crosses my mind, what could have been or what should have been. But succumbing to the past is energy draining and dangerous.
You don’t treat wilted plants by sitting by it and wondering why it’s dying. You acknowledge the condition and start treating it, so it grows.
Just like life, it is full with try and errors.
With the Holy Qur’an and Sunnah as our guide, we try our best to steer through life with everything that comes with it.
Dealing with change is something we often overlook. Do you stay the same or do you change completely according to the mould of your surrounding?
If you stay the same, “there would be no growth” they say.
If you change, “you’ll lose your old friends…” they say.
But the thing is, what they say reflect their past and fear. And no two journeys are the same.
When you are dealing with change or trying to make peace with your current state, acceptance is the key. Redha. And Patience. Sabr. And go forward. Tawakkul.
Whatever you are doing, do it with confidence that Allah is with you in every step, listening.
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The time is 3:20 AM, we’re all comfortable in our bed after Fajr. The blanket and my husband keeps me warm at most. I felt Tommy crawled steadily onto our bed and snuggled between our feet to join our slumber.
For a moment, all those ‘what if’ disappeared, and I felt…happy.
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I don’t see myself as a motivator of some sort. I am just a woman with a hobby to write and this is where I do it. And if anyone can relate and benefit from it, even one person,
I am more than grateful for that.
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Thank you for reading and stay safe, xx
You are so inspirational! Keep up the good work ππβ€οΈβ€οΈπΈπΈπ₯°π₯°
All those negative thoughts and feeling are tiring.
so true
True. I often have ‘what if’ thoughts before bed but those are just some mind games that was messing with my head but I can’t stop thinking about it every now and then. We can’t change the past and we wouldn’t know what’s going to happen in the future but I have to be grateful and blessed with how my life turned out.
Anyway, Eid Mubarak to you and your husband.